I just found some old messages from my freshman roommate, Mary. It’s so hard to believe we were just 17 when we met and how far our friendship has come - I was so nervous to first message her on facebook, and now look at us - we’re still best friends. I love you, Mary Spagnola, and here is why:
Your first message to me:anna!!!
hey! so im working at a summer camp right now and i can never get on facebook!! it kinda stinks. im so excited were roommates next year is going to be alot of fun! what SOS’s are you doing? i cant decide!
I knew we’d get along because of all the exclamation marks you used :)
I love all the poems you’d write me - like this one I just found:
There once was a girl named Anna B
She was as friendly as can be
She’s my roommate
And I guess it was just fate
Because we get along
And enjoy playing ping pong
Were like two peas in a pod
And have a fish whose name isn’t Todd
His name is Alfred
Sometimes we think he is dead
But he’s just very boring
Just sits there all morning
Not at all like my dear friend
Who I think will be there till the end
We like to do crazy crafts
Im so glad our lives crossed paths
Shes the best roomie ive ever had
But sometimes I feel bad
Because instead of working hard
We make our boyfriends a card
But we always manage to have fun
No matter what is happening under the California sun.
Also I love our plans to marry off our siblings and be in the wedding…
The rumors that were spread about us/you were awesome and made for great bonding time:
so the newest thing i heard about me is that i really dont like my roomate anna.
apparently ive been lying to you and everyone else! who wouldve thought. i litterally laughed out loud when i heard that. if youre going to start a rumor, at least make it believable
LOVE YOU (and thats NOT a lie)
Can I just say that, Mary I LOVE your enthusiasm :)
I CANT WAIT TO SEE YOU!!!
and you can come over anytime! jsut text me when youre on your way!! AHH I CANT WAIITITITITITITITTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
also i discovered a really good new drink!
I also love your encouragement - you always know JUST what to say:
i am so proud of you Anna Bolton. I have never met a stronger person. Or someone so trusting in God and knows so much about his sovereignty. You did the right thing even though it sucked and was so hard. I know that this will just make you stronger, i know that this will have a happy ending. but hearing that right now doesnt help does it? because youre still in pain and i know that. I love you so much anna and i wish there was a simple solution. but there isnt. I can however PROMISE you that i will be here for you no matter when you need me! i’ll sleep with my phone on the rest of the week until i see you. even if you just want someone to cry with i will be here. and then once you are in cali again i will just be a phone call away! I promise you will get through this. I can’t wait to see you! and HUG you! ive been wanting to hug you so much lately and i hate being so far!! call me if you need anything!!
LOVE love love you
You were so supportive of my scary decision to move home mid-semester too:
I’m going to miss you too Anna!
Today church helped so much, and I know that everything will be great for BOTH of us and i know we will still talk all the time and be friends forever. You are in my prayers. I am very proud of you for leaving, I know its bittersweet, but I am so so proud of you. I know you looked to God to make this decision and I know it will be SO great.
I cant wait to see you soon! you are the best
I’m so touched by the numerous texts and messages just like this one I’ve received from you over the years:
It’s almost 5 am and I can’t sleep just wanted to let u know I’m thinking of u and praying for u especially today love u my roomie and miss u
And then, of course, there’s all the boy advice/stories:
HAHAHA!!! Oh my gosh. I love you. Only you could accidently go on a date. whats his name? Ill fb stalk lol. What did he text you? Tell him that you are going hunting with your dad that night. That will make him be afraid of you and your dad! I really miss our help in texting guys too haha Im so helpless without you!
I am terrible at rejecting guys… . I’m probably not the most qualified to give you advice.
What you have is great! if you wanted to go with the hint thing you can always say something like Lets invite friends or is it okay if i invite a friend? or something.
but now that I think about it you should probably just do the opposite of everything I tell you.
I think its really great that you don’t want to lead him on though.
Or just call him friend a lot. and capitalize it. hi FRIEND. thats a good one.
OR send him the video of us saying “I dont like you its black and white… and the same in color! I dont like you.”
wow. I am just filled with ideas. OR just show him the videos of us dancing in our footies and he wont want to date you anymore! i am brilliant. but seriously what you have is good. Its straight forward which is what guys obviously need.
Some guy in class slipped me his number and I stared at him and was like “uhh what are all these numbers” I am sooo clueless! And when I figured it out my face turned bright red
And the latest note from you - always making me smile :)
I miss you too. life is not nearly as fun without you PBTHing at me whenever i walk in the room. there is NO friend like you! Honestly, you are the best! love you!
I love you, Mary Spagnola!